This resonates so much with me right now. I’m going through a divorce, and my daughter is already saying she doesn’t want to go on her “daddy days”. Everyone, including my legal support, is telling me I must make her go. Everyone that is except her therapist, who like me thinks it’s nuts to force a child to go with an adult they say they feel unsafe with (especially as my daughter already has some very complex mental health needs). The legal guidance says that if a child is at risk at harm you can apply to the court to stop contact, but what does “harm” mean. When I ask people that they clearly think it means physically abuse. I was never hit once in my life, but spent most of my childhood feeling unsafe, and that has done long term damage to me. It feels very wrong to not listen to my child when she says she does not want to go. When people reply “all children say this” I think, yeah and a lot of child get very damaged by divorce; and a lot of little girls grow up not knowing how to say no to abusive and manipulative men.